“The most important relationship we can all have is the one you have with yourself. The most important journey you can take is one of self-discovery. To know yourself, you must spend time with yourself, you must not be afraid to be alone. Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” – Aristotle
“The most important relationship is the one you have with yourself. Agree?”
While some argue that the most significant relationship is with a partner or children, I argue that you can never be the best version of yourself in those relationships if you neglect your relationship with yourself.
Developing a healthy relationship with yourself involves valuing yourself and embracing your strengths, while also kindly identifying areas where you want to improve and grow.
In my personal experience, my previous relationship was so focused on us as a couple that I lost sight of who I was. It wasn’t until my divorce that I realized I didn’t know myself, and I didn’t even like who I was.
From a young age, we seek approval from our parents, teachers, and friends, but as we grow older, we tend to prioritize making others proud of us rather than ourselves.
Think about how many times you’ve put your needs aside to please others, or how many times you’ve lost yourself in a relationship or situation.
Prioritizing your relationship with yourself not only benefits you but also improves your connections with others. You cannot be emotionally available to others unless you are emotionally available to yourself.
5 reasons why the most important relationship is the one you
have with yourself.
- You’re in it for the long haul: You can never escape yourself, so you might as well make the most of it. Learning to enjoy your own company and your alone time is essential for your well-being.
- I love you, YOU: Self-love and self-care aren’t selfish or narcissistic. I am not talking about Narcissus from Greek mythology here. They are essential for maintaining a healthy relationship with yourself. By taking vows to love and support yourself, you commit to being there for you when things get tough.
- Hello in there: Only you can hear your thoughts, and what you say to yourself matters. By learning to love and respect yourself, you can cultivate a positive and supportive inner voice.
- It does a body good: Taking care of your physical health is essential for your overall well-being. Listen to your body and find activities that work for you. Exploring your sexuality can also be a way to get to know your body and reduce stress. Orgasms release oxytocin and dopamine.
- Friend or foe: By maintaining a healthy relationship with yourself, you’ll be better equipped to handle your other relationships. You’ll know when it’s time to let go of toxic friendships and focus on the ones that serve you best.
While relationships with family and friends can bring happiness and joy to life, the most significant relationship that can enhance all other experiences is the one you have with yourself. By consistently working on this beautiful relationship, you can improve your self-care, self-love, and overall well-being.
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WOW that’s a LOT of good stuff. That part at the end about breaking up / losing friends really hit me the most. I HATE losing friends and always seem to be the one to reach out try and reconnect or stay connected. It’s just so hard for me, because I really don’t hold grudges. When stuff in life reminds me of them I want to try and reach out again….it’s almost like a death when I lose a friend…I have to keep reminding myself, they aren’t there for you anymore, stop sharing with them. Leave them alone.
Speaking of friends, the other thing I’m really struggling with is on social media. Most people seems to either get in flame wars or be too polite/ nice to tell you how they really feel. So in the end you have no idea if they are really your friend or just being polite….kind of sad how disingenuous so many people are. Makes me want to such curl up and not talk to anyone anymore.
The end of friendships is hard. And social media is a whole different animal. Being able to hind behind a keyboard and a screen. I try to stay away from political, religious and other controversial topics on social media. But it certainly can be hard! I’ve learned that writing a blog and my approach to coaching, not everyone will agree. The first negative comments hurt, but then I realized they everyone gets to have their own opinion and if they don’t like me or my approach, that is ok. Not that it still doesn’t sting a little from time to time. Thank you for the comment!