“Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.” -Ferris Bueller
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Until about 5 years ago, my brother worked for a company that did not value him. He was very good at his job. His bosses knew he was an asset to the company, they knew they had a dedicated employee who would go above and beyond, and they took advantage of that.
After 15 years, he still had to use a vacation day to spend the day with his family on Christmas!
I remember many times I would say to him he should leave them and start his own business, to which his reply would be, “Someday”.
“The thing is, we think we have time” – Buddha
I was having a conversation with a friend the other day and I said, “Yeah, maybe someday.” He said to me, I just heard the saying, “Someday is not a day in the week.” To which I said, “I have to write a blog on that!”
I googled the phrase and Sam Horn’s book popped up and I bought it immediately.
After reading her book, she said it all so…perfect really. I didn’t have much to add to her take on “someday”, but I figured I could write about her book instead.
If you are feeling like you are in a rut in life, confused, stuck, or in a life transition and want to view the future a little different, I would suggest this read.
I don’t often recommend self-help books because we all have our own tastes and preferences when seeking what support looks like for us. And I’m certainly not one to write book reviews, but here is my take on her book and you can decide if it’s a read for you.
“My Happiness Is On Me, So You’re Off The Hook” -Esther Hicks
Too often in life we get busy and we push things to the backburner saying to ourselves, “I’ll get to it someday. I’ll do that someday. Maybe someday.”
We have responsibilities, we have obligations, we have commitments, and often we think the “thing” we are putting off to “someday” is just too big to tackle.
We don’t always have to radically change our lives to find meaningful happiness, yet most of us live on autopilot without exploring even the small things that can bring fulfillment to our lives.
Sam’s book turns those thoughts on the back burner into simple, actionable “life hacks”. She reminds us how important it is for every one of us to embrace EVERY day. Yes, life can be hard, but it doesn’t mean that we fall down and don’t get back up or live a life of complacency because we are scared of the unknown.
Her book is not suggesting to live every day as your last or be irresponsible with your choices, she simply is encouraging us to be more proactive in our lives and take responsibility for our own happiness.
She has many quotes throughout the book from many people and I loved them all, but this one stood out amongst the others:
“The future is already here and we’re already late” – John Legend.
Life Hack 1: Evaluate your Happiness History
Life Hack 2: Generate a Today, Not Someday Dream
Life Hack 3: Abdicate Outdated Beliefs and Behaviors
Life Hack 4: Initiate Daily Actions that Move Your Life Forward
Life Hack 5: Celebrate What’s Right with Life, Right Here, Right Now
Life Hack 6: Affiliate with People Who Have Your Back and Front
Life Hack 7: Integrate Your Passion and Profession
Life Hack 8: Negotiate for What You Want, Need and Deserve
Life Hack 9: Innovate a Fresh State
Life Hack 10: Relocate to Greener Pastures
“The bad news is, time flies. The good news is, you’re the pilot”
– Michael Altschuler
Just reading the hacks you can already get an idea of how this book is going to go. It starts with YOU evaluating YOU. No one else. No one telling you what your life should look like or how you should handle different situations.
In addition to her captivating stores throughout the book, there are activities throughout the book for you. She encourages you to have a pen and write things down to get you thinking about your life. She even has a Someday Journal that she encourages you to use.
My favorite part of the book was the end.
She challenges an author that I love (and still do) that got me thinking a little different. Eckhart Tolle’s books “The Power of Now” is very focused on the present, not the past or future. Well Sam questions that:
“A key message of this book –and of the Life Hacks—is that a happy life is a mix of being present here and now—and at the same time—being open to what’s next”. I would agree with her here, I’m constantly saying, “Keep moving forward”.
“To my mind, having a meaningful past (something we are grateful for), a meaningful now (something we’re experiencing, appreciating, and imprinting in the present moment), and a meaningful next (something we’re looking forward to) is the best of all worlds. It’s not one or the other. It’s all three.”
She acknowledges the importance of spending the majority of our time in the present, but she see’s the value in venturing into the “now and then” and the “now and in the future”.
“If you don’t step forward you are always in the same place.”
My brother finally left his job and opened up his own company! He might have regretted not doing it a little sooner at that time, but he needed to get to that place on his own.
He took time to evaluate his life and realized the piece that was holding him back from so much, was his job. I am not sure “someday” is even in his vocabulary anymore!
We don’t need to live every day “like you were dying” as Tim McGraw says, however, it doesn’t harm us to start taking life by the horns, pushing ourselves outside our comfort zone sometimes and to be more proactive in finding our happy.
“You will never regret putting yourself in your own story and doing more of what makes you happier, healthier, and more fulfilled; you’ll only regret not doing it…sooner.” – Sam Horn
Remember, You Got This!
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